HERE'S MY STORY
For several years I lost my identity, I did not know who I was. I became increasingly dissatisfied, unhappy and felt trapped. I realised I had to make changes but I was too scared to let go of who I was in order to rediscover who I am meant to be. I tried to run away from 'my shadows' but they followed me everywhere. However, I was ready, willing and committed to change!
"Change is painful, but nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong"
LET ME HELP YOU EMBRACE CHANGE!
I am Nelly Kwasinwi, a mother of four beautiful and handsome children. I am happy you are here.
Life was miserable for me but I can proudly tell you today that I have made some great improvements to get to a happy and safe place and I can help you do the same. The purpose of sharing my story with you is to first notify you that the negative experiences become internalised and that misinforms the way you see yourself, others and relate to the world. The second is to remind you that you are not alone and finally, you do not have to do it all by yourself.
I experienced domestic abuse growing up and I did not even know how to identify the signs of emotional abuse. I constantly blamed and doubted myself for everything. It was a dark, cold and lonely place to be, though I was surrounded by people. Submerged by hopelessness, rejection and inadequateness, I just kept going for the sake of my family. I had completely lost touch with the person that I was meant to be. Finding a suicide note in one of my children’s bedroom shook me to the core. I learned that the pain of not making change was greater than the fear of the unknown. The mother and the woman in me was determined to rise up from the rock bottom I was hitting.
Being an introverted Black African woman in the UK with a limited support network, it appeared to be a taboo talking about the negative experiences or even asking for help from fellow country people. I felt rejected, blamed and ignored. I surrendered myself to my God.
I started my transformation journey well over a decade ago and I developed a deep connection with my spiritual self. Entrusted the universe to do the best thing for me. It was a journey that took me through many learning opportunities. I involved myself in various training sessions, seminars, podcasts and got a counsellor, coach and mentor who helped me see things more clearly, the things that I shut out over the years. Slowly but surely, I started to see possibilities over challenges.
I work with people who feel trapped and stuck, they want to move ahead in life but fear stops them from taking action. I help them get out of their comfort zone to rediscover their identity, clarify their uniqueness, recreate their future and live meaningful lives. If this sounds familiar to you, then contact me and let's have a conversation. I want to hear your story and find a way to work with you.
MY INTERESTS AND HOBBIES
I am interested in abnormal psychology, human behaviour and lifespan development. My personal experiences in life and journey of overcoming the adversities that were thrown at me have enabled me to be a more conscious parent and deal better with my inner conflict to live a purposeful life.
My hobbies include being in nature, cooking, gardening, dancing, listening to music, family time, reading, engaging in meaningful discussions and speaking on topics that interest me.
“Where there's a will, there's a way”